I can shine brightly when I am cared for
I can shine when I am cared for.
So simple yet so powerful.
I wrote this at the beginning of the year when it became clear that my world was shifting.
Things weren’t going to stay the same. They couldn’t stay the same because they just weren’t working.
And my own habits and ways of being were beginning to be impacted by my life circumstances.
I wasn’t being all of me. I wasn’t showing up fully for myself.
I couldn’t shine because my light was too dim. My cup was empty. And like I’ve said before:
◦ Empty cups don’t create full lives. ◦
And what I realized is that when I am cared for properly, when I am showing up for myself FIRST and above everything else, I have so much more to give to the world, my friends and family and my clients.
No one needs to BE anything for me or behave in a specific way. I have no expectations of others because I don’t REQUIRE anything from them - my needs are already met.
The presence of others - their wants and needs and desires - become a BONUS instead of a hindrance because I’ve already taken care of myself.
Which also means I don’t expect anyone else to do it for me. I don’t expect them to show up as anything other than who they are fully.
And I’m able to love them even when they’re not having the best time because how they’re feeling is separate to what I’m feeling. I’ve already done the work of making sure that I’m in an energetic space to care for them by taking care of me.
I GET TO SHINE BRIGHTER BECAUSE I FEEL GOOD, LOVED + SUPPORTED BY ME.It’s so counterintuitive to what we’re taught but this shit is powerful.
And it’s not about not caring for others or showing up for them. It’s about finding ways to PRIORITIZE your own wellbeing and making that 100% NON-NEGOTIABLE so that you can show up fully for others.
Think about it for a second…
Are you a better employee/partner/parent/friend when you’re tired or well-rested?
It’s not selfish, it’s fucking science. It’s basic math.
If you have 10, you can give one away and still have some left over.
If you have one and you give it away what happens then?
And we are steeped in a society that tells us there’s glory in constantly living at a one.
Fuck that noise! #amirite?!
Who wants to live at a one when it’s possible to live at a TEN?
Why would we choose the option of being a one when the option of being a ten is equally as available to us if we just take the simple steps to MAKE IT HAPPEN.
IT ALL BOILS DOWN TO A CHOICE (LIKE ALWAYS!).I know that I’m better when I shine brightly.
I’m more valuable to those around me when I’m feeling Wild Free Well.
So THAT is my main job.
The rest is just a bonus.
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